Why you should stop looking for one passion

Why you should stop looking for one passion

26 Nov

Are you worried that you have no passion? Or maybe you are looking for a topic that you could turn into a passion that opens the gate to a satisfying job? You follow the popular saying: “Follow your passion and success will follow you “.

But did you know that recent research by researchers at Yale and Stanford suggests that looking for one passion may be a mistake? Research also suggests that passion is not discovered overnight – your interests are developed and deepened over time. Only after putting in the right effort, time and commitment do they turn into passions for life.

The problem is that today we want to do everything effortlessly. We shop with one click, access many applications and run complex systems. We are fed up with the toil, effort, and everything that causes us discomfort. But is this approach really the best for us?

PRESSURE TO SEEK PASSION

The advice to follow your passion has caught on especially in recent years. We value short-term comfort more and more over more permanent emotional states that require greater effort from us. It seems that finding passion can soothe all our frustrations and problems.

The approach to finding your passion is that each of us should have one. Unfortunately, most people don’t have any, so it makes them uneasy that there is something wrong with them. If you are among these people, I will reassure you – research shows that only 20% of people can find their passion in life.

Why do most people find it difficult to find passion? The main reason is low awareness of what really turns you on in life. Additionally, you neglect and underestimate the interests you already have.

So, hand on heart, admit how much time do you spend deepening your interests? Do you consciously deal with your interests in such a way as to develop new skills or acquire specific knowledge?

Of course, most of us don’t think that way, because after all, hobbies are pure pleasure. But wouldn’t you have even more fun getting to the next, more difficult level? Who knows if these inconspicuous interests would not turn into real passions for life?

LOOK AT YOUR ATTITUDE TOWARDS LIFE

Looking for one single passion in your life may suggest that you prefer to be constancy in life. Stability bias is one of two theories developed on the basis of an analysis of the causes of human actions by the psychologist Carol Dweck. She divided people into two types depending on their ideas about their abilities – focused on constancy or changeability.

Persistence-minded people believe that their abilities are unchanging, they were probably established at birth, and there is little that can be done to improve them. They often say: “these are my genes”, “I was born this way” or “I can’t learn it.” They believe their abilities depend on innate talents, not on skill development through science.

It is people with a focus on constancy that look for this one profession, partner, home, etc. They are looking for one perfect match in their lives. They expect this fit to be permanent, emotional, and endlessly satisfying.

Unfortunately, when faced with challenges, they tend to leave their relationships and work. Research has shown that people with a focus on constancy quickly lost interest in an interesting topic when they encountered difficulties. They had a hard time accepting the notion that further exploration and increasing their resistance to discomfort could bring about positive change.

Volatility-minded people, on the other hand, believe that ability and success come from learning and that learning takes time and effort. In case of difficulties, try multiple times, increase the intensity, try a different approach or seek help. When a volatility-oriented person experiences difficulties, it will inform them that more time and effort are required to solve a given task.

DON’T GO EASILY LOOKING FOR PASSION

The saying, “Do what you love and you’ll never work” might suggest that when you work hard, it’s not a passion. And certainly not when you feel something is going wrong and you have to fight. This approach can be detrimental to your further development. It does not develop in your persistence in pursuing your goals, courage to overcome challenges and resilience to deal with difficulties.

Searching for this one and only passion can influence the development of interests. Persons with a focus on constancy may find that interests are also persistent, so their scope of interests is narrow. This is because when you find interests that intrigue you and bring you success, you are no longer looking for others, which may inhibit your further development.

To make matters worse, you expect your path to follow your passion to be easy, smooth and fun. Therefore, after the first obstacles appear, it is difficult for you to stay motivated and persevere.

Some people even give up their idea then, thinking that since it is so difficult for me, it is clearly not for me. After all, when you do what you love, you shouldn’t even feel that you are working! Hardships and more serious challenges are therefore seen as indications that you are on the wrong track.

Research confirms that people with a focus on constancy expect that once they find this one passion, their motivation will not fade away, and they will not have to put too much effort into pursuing that passion.

PASSION WILL NOT SOLVE ALL PROBLEMS WITH WORK

Finding one passion in life doesn’t take into account that your interests and passions change as you acquire knowledge and experience. Such an approach can be dangerous in a dynamically changing labor market. Given that you will likely have to retrain several times in your life, basing your career on one passion may end up in unemployment.

Following your one and only passion can make you follow convenience and ease rather than a curiosity that will develop your hidden potential.

Passion is important, but not the solution to all work-related problems. If you have a problem with workaholism, perfectionism, assertiveness or underestimation, passion won’t solve it.

Problems, obstacles, difficulties and toxic people will not disappear like magic just because you have found your passion. There is a high risk that despite finding passion, you will transfer these problems to a new job.

Following your passion, it’s also easy to forget about the hard laws of the market – especially if you plan to base your business on passion. What you are passionate about may not necessarily match the needs of your potential customers. Customers may not be interested in your offer at all, no matter how passionate you are. So check first if the market really needs it, before basing your whole business on passion.

WHY YOU SHOULD STOP LOOKING FOR ONE PASSION

Advice to find your passion is usually given with good intentions, not to worry about talent, not to focus on status or money, but to find what is important and interesting to you. Unfortunately, the belief system behind this message can inhibit your development and lead to your potential being missed.

A fulfilling job is a job that gives you the opportunity to develop that supports the achievement of goals that are significant to you. Development brings the greatest satisfaction from overcoming obstacles and difficulties, not avoiding them.

It is worth considering the assumption that passion can be developed through experience, perseverance and effort. Success or failure in one area does not rule out opportunities in others. Difficulties are not a clue to abandon the topic but to develop further and perhaps a pass to a passionate life.

 

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